It has been a year, almost to the day since I wrote a post. Why is that? Got busy? Forgot? Made other things a bigger priority? Nope…in an effort to practice what I preach, the radical honesty of it is…I let my own insecurities derail me. I became embarrassed (ashamed maybe) of putting myself and my thoughts out there. I started feelings like I didn’t really know what I wanted this to be or if I was brave enough to keep going in order to find out. I dropped the ball in a game against myself.
In college I took a bunch of acting classes and in one of those classes we were given this b0ok. The Inner Game of Tennis by W. Timothy Gallwey. Why give a bunch of theater nerds a book about professional level tennis techniques? Because no matter if the game you are playing is championship tennis, office politics, or just trying to get through writing a blog post, every game is at its core, a game with yourself. Or, according to this book, your inner 2 selves. The one who wants to do something and knows how to do it, and the one who is doubtful, chatty, and more often than not, in the way. This book really breaks down how to differentiate your two selves and keep the chatty one busy, so the doing one can actually do the doing. I recommend checking it out!
All of us, even those at the top of our game, have moments where our head gets in the way of us DOING. Sometimes our mind becomes a run away train of “I can’t. I’m not good enough” and “What will people think”. Sometimes its even more tricky and throws out “Let’s practice more or take another class before really trying” or “I’m not ready yet, I’ll do it when I feel its the right time”. But we all know that doesn’t exist. There is no magical time when we will suddenly feel comfortable, confident, or “ready”. Those feelings come after the doing has already started.
Let me say that again, for myself, as well as anyone reading. Feelings of comfort, confidence and readiness come AFTER the doing. You have to bring your doubt, your fear, your discomfort with you when you take the first step. Acknowledge them, give them a pep talk and bring them along. That’s what I am going to try to do this year. Take more action steps and if my challenging feelings insist on sticking around, then they can come along for the ride.